“Define a Dominant.” My wonderful, traditional friends responded almost instantly. “Guides.” “Protects.” “Takes responsibility.” “Creates security.” “Dominates.” (A revolutionary contribution to the discussion.) Then I asked, “Okay... and what is submission?” Silence. They looked at me... like you look at IKEA instructions. Not because no one had an answer. Because suddenly everyone realized they had a different one. Me included. Two submissives can do exactly the same things. Two submissives can look exactly the same. Kneel. Wear a collar. Follow the same command. And yet... One finds trust. Another finds desire. Another finds peace. Another finds devotion. Another finds freedom. Maybe because submission doesn't start with behavior. It starts with internal experience. And that's why every definition of submission ultimately becomes an autobiography. So let me ask. Not, “What is submission?” But, “What does it feel like?”